remembrance paintings

Hi everyone,

Its been a while since I’ve posted but I am still available to do custom remembrance paintings in all shapes, sizes, and colors. They can include any words and images of your choosing. Please contact me at rlange7@live.com if you are interested in having one made. If your budget is small we can still work something out. I want you to have something to honor and remember your baby by. Feel free to contact me.

Blessings,

Renee

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Lots of door knobs and locks, oh my!

Oops… this post was not supposed to be posted on this blog. I am starting a blog about my garage sale finds, and this was supposed to go on that blog. Sorry about that!

Today I bought a big group of antique doorknobs, locks, and plates. This is a learning experience for me, I’ve never purchased architectural stuff before. Planning to take it to an architectural salvage place here in Seattle. I loved the look of the glass door knobs. They are just so pretty. I also like them because the house I grew up in had some in them. There were also a lot of brass door knobs and plates and locks. They have such a neat feel to them. So solid and such clean lines, very unlike what is made today. I may have overpaid on this but I think I’ll at least get my money back and hopefully learn a lot in the process. One thing I know, a box full of these is heavy! It’s still sitting in my car until my hubby can help unload it. Perhaps it will just stay in there til I take it to the salvage place. We shall see. What did you find this weekend?

“I Still Long to Hold You”… completed, for now. :)

I wanted to share my finished art work, “I Still Long to Hold You”, which includes many names of babies that you have shared with me. If any of you see any mistakes on a name, or if I have forgotten a name that one of you posted when I asked for names, please let me know. I originally said this is a “painting” but that’s not fully correct. Actually the words “I Still Long to Hold You” are painted in green metallic ink, and the designs along the border are painted in orange metallic ink, so those are in fact painted. However the names are all written with calligraphy pen, so not technically “painted”. Anyways, if you would like me to email you a copy of the photo please email me at rlange7@live.com. I am still working on finding a place where this artwork can be displayed. Right now it is displayed in my home, but when I find a more public place to have it displayed I will let you know. It measures 30 in. x 20 in, so it’s quite large. Thanks to all of you who added names. Also I want to say that it is finished for now but sometimes a few more finishing touches get added to my paintings as time passes.

In case you are new to my blog, I originally started this art work as a way to remember my daughter Anna’s 3rd Birthday. All of the names in the painting are babies who are no longer with us, given to me by parents and friends to add to this painting. I hope that if you have lost a baby or child, looking at this painting will help you to know you are not alone. There are many names on this painting, given to me by many different people. We are not alone in our grief, and we are also not alone in our remembrance and celebration of our children’s short lives. Do you see any other significance this painting may have to you, whether you have a name included in this or not? I would love if you would share in the comments what this painting means to you or how it has affected you.

-Renee

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Anna’s Birthday

I wrote this on Nov. 22nd, the day before Anna’s 3rd Birthday. I didn’t share it then, but I decided to share it now.

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Your Birthday

There is no right answer

only endless questions and choices

as I ponder how to celebrate your birthday.

Another birthday where you are not here,

and I am hating this tension

yearning for both celebration and grief

not wanting this to be a day of sadness,

yet celebration highlights the hole in our family where you should be.

so what would you want for this day?

how would you have us celebrate if you were here with us?

what kind of cake would you choose? which friends would you invite?

would you like noise and craziness, or simple and quiet?

would you be hoping for a princess doll or Lego blocks?

I cannot know. It breaks my heart.

Do you celebrate this day in heaven?

It is also the day you went there.

I am sure there is a lovely party in heaven.

Cake, balloons, all your favorite animals in attendance.

I’m sure you don’t want us to sit and cry, while you are having such a wonderful time.

Really I suppose my tears are more for me than for you. For what I am missing today.

I know you are not missing anything,

your life is more full and true than it ever could be here.

so what would you say to me today?

no clichés, please. I’ve heard those.

a whisper of “I am with you”

No, you aren’t! You aren’t here! I say.

“Yes I am. All around you. I am wrapped  up in you. I came from you, and I am with you still.

Your life will never be the same, because I came, and was a part of it, for such a short time.

My life changed you, and in that way, I am still with you.

Celebrate today the good that I brought into your life, by being in it for a short time.”

Yes, you have brought me good.

A deeper love felt, stronger than I knew before.

New art inspirations, a fuller appreciation of life.

A truer understanding of heaven and my future there.

A reminder of you in so many aspects of nature.

A life more richly felt.

A heart that feels compassion towards those who are grieving.

And a journey of healing that has only just begun.

Today, I remember the gift you are to us,

even though you are no longer with us.

Today, I remember I have a daughter who dines with the royalty of heaven.

-Renee

Living in the Tension of Holidays After Loss

             I’ve always loved the Christmas season. This year I am excited for  but yet there is something missing. I wish I could go back to the carefree Christmas days, but alas, 3 years ago a sadness came into the Christmas season for me and my family, along with the joy and celebration. There is a tension in my heart and mind. I still enjoy it, but there are pangs of sorrow and longing. I grieve for the loss of those carefree, joyful holidays without the pain wrapped up in them as well. I know that many of you reading this can relate in some way. What do you do with it?

           Sometimes I try to push it away, throw myself into holiday festivities and dull the pain. Other times I throw myself into the grief and sadness, go back to the moments that brought the most pain into this time of year, remember the people who are missing while forgetting the people who are here. A third option, what I hope to do this year, is find some type of balance. I can’t pretend that this season is what it used to be, before it became a season of loss: of a daughter, a father-in- law, and my  husband’s grandmother. But I also cannot stay in that place of only grieving, because I will miss the joy and excitement that is here for me this season, in my daughters’ delight at opening presents, times of playing with cousins and relaxing with family. The joy of a two year old looking at Christmas lights. Baking Christmas cookies. And the true peace that comes from remembering Jesus’ birth, the reason I can truly have hope and joy. I am taking this moment of writing to sit in that tension, and perhaps some of you reading can share what that tension looks like for you, when you celebrate a holiday with loved ones missing, or a longing to have children, or financial struggles… how do you manage to celebrate and enjoy this season while also embracing the truth that the holidays are no longer just a carefree, easy time for you?

On a lighter note, here is a peek at some playful paintings I’ve been working on lately:

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-Renee